Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Meaning of life kind of questions

Are men really capable of being faithful?
I'm not sure any of you can actually do it, forever, one woman? Does that sentence terrify you?

Not like they'd ever answer that honestly. Has anyone noticed that the only time men "apologize" for their affairs, and "make changes" is when they get caught. No man would never in a million years just confess because it's the right thing to do. OK the right thing to do would be to not have an affair in the first place. I have an ex that still won't admit that he ever cheated on me, even though I have it on good authority that he did, and he casually admits to cheating on his current girlfriend more than once. It doesn't even matter anymore, we live in different states, have different lives and barely talk, but he still won't admit it. Classic male allergy to honesty. As someone who values honesty above ALL else in all of my relationships, I find this maddening.

Everyone is attracted to people other than their partner, but how do you rationalize crossing that line? To me, this is the cruelest thing you can do to someone who cares about you. A lot of people will say that their boyfriend, husband, girlfriend, (whatever) would never cheat on them. Hell, people tell me all the time that FSU would never do that. And while I trust him above all other men, he is human and I am starting to wonder if any man can go the distance, happily, with one woman, for a lifetime.

Maybe it's biologically impossible.
Also, if you are in a committed relationship with a traveling salesman of any kind, you are screwed and so are the other women he is sleeping with. Dump him.

ps. this is in no way a reflection of how I feel about FSU, 2 1/2 years in and I still think he's perfect. No, seriously. I will keep thinking that until I find evidence otherwise.


JGIWC said...

In this day and age, it's becoming increasingly hard to believe that any man can be faithful and, more importantly, STAY faithful. (Jesse James, ANYONE?!) But, I cling to any remaining shred of evidence proving the contrary for dear life. Sometimes I sit and cry and think that I'll be alone forever, because I refuse to settle. But, at least I can count on myself. And, it does sound like you've got one of the good ones. :)

Teeny said...

Hmmm. I wrote a massive comment on this topic but decided that it was too hard to convey what I meant without writing a book. I have a lot of thoughts on cheating and monogamy... mostly that people stay in relationships when they're unhappy because it's either too complicated to leave or because they are too comfortable and lazy- and then use being unhappy as an excuse to stray. I think it just shows weakness of character- and based on that, I really believe that there are people that are both faithful and honest.

Z said...

I think you guys are both right. I'm glad I'm not the only one who sees all the scandalous news stories and wonders if my relationship will be different. But we are all hopeless romantics aren't we?

I think it's a good thing.