Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Marriage: no thanks I'll just have water with no lemon

People keep asking me if I'm getting married soon. Better yet, people keep assuming that's the next step now that FSU and I live together. Whoa. When did this become the assumption? Let's set the record straight, I am not getting married in the near future, and neither is FSU to my knowledge, unless he has fathered some bastard children unwittingly in which case he would I'm sure do the "right thing".

Why is marriage the "right thing" to do, or the next logical step in relationships in general? How romantic, let's spend the rest of our lives together because it seems like the next logical step. How about it honey? Someone please tell me the point, outside of children, and health insurance (also very romantic with the family plans and dental coverage) to rush into this lifetime commitment. I can't say I don't want to be married eventually, I do, and most definitely to FSU. I've even been that girl who brings it up unnecessarily over and over again until I stopped to think about it...

I really don't want to get married right now. Or in the near future. Why rock the boat when its sailing along so nicely. Furthermore, we've only been dating almost a year. Moving in together is a big leap in itself. Not to mention I can't imagine finding the money for all those wedding shenanigans everyone else would expect us to have.

Everyone is always getting divorced and cheating on each other. Maybe they just shouldn't get married in the first place. And this from a girl whose parents have been happily married for 26 years or so. They also got married in a court house, mom wearing a sun dress she made herself, no party, no photographer, no overpriced flowers imported from some poverty stricken country (Tanya?).. just them and a judge. It seems to work for them. BUT these are the two people that advise me all the time to wait. Wait until you're 30. My dad has even tried to bribe me not to get engaged. When I hit 25 I get a diamond, 30; a BMW.

I don't know about 30, I'm not one for putting numbers on things, but I know I don't want to get married because I feel like I am supposed to, or because he feels pressured into it. I'd rather wait, until its right, and we are both ready even if its years from now. Besides, I'm still trying to adjust to my new furry step-child Zeus. Who is extremely needy and drools excessively since the big move. But like FSU likes to remind me, "it's a package deal" and I can't not have one and still the other. I fear if we were to get married I'd have to assume some level of responsibility for the ear cleaning, bathing, and vet bills. yuck.



Z said...

Despite being married myself, I hear ya on this. And not having been dating quite a year yet? Yeah, no need to rush things.

Anonymous said...

When the time comes, i'll look forward to the open bar.

Lil' Miss Loud Mouth said...

Colombia ;)

Wait 'til 30, for the BMW alone... jk

While I'd love the bachelorette parties, the dress fittings, the penis-shaped lollipops (oh yes, you will be forced to lick one), and the chance at catching the bouquet, I much rather you wait until it's a magical, romantic, life-changing moment and decision. Only you (+FSU) can know when you are ready for that.

Clay Perry said...

you cant plan the time, when it happens, it'll happen. it will just feel right. you'll see.